By: Marci Stiles, MA, LPC-S
The media frequently compare our conflicted America to a dysfunctional couple on the edge of divorce. But as a marriage counselor, I can say with confidence: I’ve seen worse.
Admittedly, our divided country is like many of the couples I work with. Neither side wants to bend. Neither wants to hear the other’s side. Both think the other is impossible to live with. Both fear opening up, being vulnerable and losing themselves to the other if they give in even an inch.
Recently I was a part of a research project with ad agency Grey New York to understand the culture and meaning of togetherness, and how that applies to brands which are wondering whether they can make things better. Because as I understand, brands are asking themselves if they should try to play a role in bringing people together – and what that might entail. For the research, we set up … Continue reading
If you’re concerned that you or someone you know has an addiction, it can be difficult to know for sure. There is an assessment that can be helpful to make this determination. It’s relevant to both substance and behavioral addictions. Just apply the three C’s:
Craving – the person has an intense, abnormal need to use their substance of choice or conduct the unhealthy behavior. It’s as if the person cannot do without it.
Compulsion – the person has an irresistible, repetitive urge to use or behave, especially against one’s wishes. The person is not in control and cannot resist.
Continued use despite the negative consequences – addiction has many serious negative consequences. It can cause loss of job, broken relationships, financial distress, and legal problems. The person continues to use or behave despite these negative consequences.
If you suspect an addiction is present, it’s critical that help is received as soon as possible. Contact an addiction specialist … Continue reading